The Crossroad of Should and Must


Happy Monday! Here is a little Truth Talk from Me: I wanted to share a story and it starts with a beautiful friend I am so grateful to have inphoto-may-31-5-14-18-pm my life and the book The Crossroads of Should and Must – Find and Follow your Passion by Elle Luna.

Do you ever get a thought or feeling to do something, say something or get someone something?   Honor that and follow through with it because the smallest act of kindness can make a profound difference in a person’s life. My strong, beautiful, thoughtful friend Michelle bought me that book because she thought I would like it. Little did she know my soul yearned for this book.

I started reading it and it was great just like most self-help/inspirational books I’ve read. Then something happened, these words appeared across two pages “How Long Will You Wait To Honor Who You Are?” Oh man did that hit me like a ton of bricks. I closed the book on those pages and that was in November of 2015. I looked at the book but I couldn’t even go there. I left it sitting on my nightstand untouched till April 2016. I finished reading it and not too soon after that I made the decision get myself a coach.   I was ready for a change. I was ready for feel congruent and move forward towards my life’s purpose.

Jill, my life coach read me this poem on our first call and it stays with me and I think of it often…

Chapter 1
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in I am lost… I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter 2
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place.
But, it isn’t my fault.
I still take a long time to get out.

Chapter 3
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in… it’s a habit.
My eyes are open I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

Chapter 4
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

Chapter 5
I walk down another street.

There’s A Hole In My Sidewalk: The Romance of Self-Discovery by Portia Nelson

fullsizerender-2In May 2016 I journaled after one of my coaching calls. I sat and thought about those words that sat closed on my nightstand for months and in that moment I felt it in my heart and I wrote these words: Today I promise myself to honor all of who I am. What might my life look like loving myself… honoring Me… Valuing Me? I’ve spent so long living under the radar; afraid to be ME even saying this brings tears to my eyes for how that little girl inside felt. I see YOU… so beautiful… so strong… so determined. I found my way back to you. I thought about that poem…Chapter 4: I walk down the same street. There is a deep whole in the sidewalk. I walk around it. I’m heading into chapter 5 : I walk down another street.

Here I am today feeling so grateful. I walked down another street. Guess what? It’s scary going down a new street and yet at the same time I feel brave and it’s beautiful. My little girl she is right next to the wise woman who has learned so much on this journey we call life. Together hand in hand… my little girl and the wise woman that I am today stand together… it feel so good!

I ask YOU… How long will you wait to honor who you are? And as you read that poem and think about a situation you are unsettled with, what chapter are you in? Do you want help to get to the next chapter like I did? I’m here if you do. My Invitation to You!

Remember… you matter, your story matters, kindness matters!

Much Love and Gratitude!

Rene ♥


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