How do we know if we can trust someone?
I have talked with a lot of people and it comes up often; I can’t trust __________ and they name a person. They would explain their story. There is no doubt trust can be broken. I’m not denying that. I’m asking you to expand your thought about trust.
When I worked for my father’s self improvement seminar business, we would do a trust fall event. We talked a lot about trust. When you are standing off the ground and falling backwards into the arms of people, trust matters.
I was reflecting on my coaching with Jill and undeniably one of the biggest changes was trusting myself. I now have an overall sense and knowingness that I have the answers for my life and I can trust that. I’ve always thought about “trust”: do you trust another person, trust what you read or do you trust a friend? Thinking about trust in general since coaching with Jill, showed me that trust in anything ultimately comes back to trust in ME. Prior to starting my coaching I can’t say that I trusted myself fully. I have a deep sense and knowingness that my intuition is my guide for what is best for Me.
There was a time in my life that I thought others knew what was best for me. I would ask my father, my sister, my brother, I had felt they must know what is right for me. I didn’t realized how disconnected I was from my true voice that leads and guides me. That thought that someone else knew what was right for me lead me to make decisions that lead me further from my true self. I now know, I can I trust and lead myself. Whether I am presented with something small or big as far a opportunities or situations it all comes back to the same end result; check within myself, honor that answer and move boldly forward.
Let’s go back to the question How do we know if we can trust someone? Let’s use the trust fall as an example. Look at the photo, you are going to fall back into the arms of a group of people you may or may not know well. Do you automatically trust them and fall back?
What if you did that and fell to the ground?
Do you blame them for not catching you? Do you say see they were not there for me?
Would you play victim or play the leader and make sure all things were in line before you fell backwards. This was a great event because you were able to see so many beliefs show up.
Or would you ask questions, confirm they understand the directions, verify they are ready by asking them to repeat commands to demonstrate they understand and you can hear it in their voice they are ready? That you felt confident you would be caught. Would it feel scary? Yes of course.
In the end your decision to trust ultimately comes back to YOU.
When life presents a person or situation, check within yourself and see how you feel. Can you trust them? Think about the example of trust fall event.
Once I felt that realization everything changed. I could seek advise from people I respected but in the end, only I would know what is best for me. It can feel pretty powerful to know, You have the answers for your life.
When you finish reading this post and go about your day, I want you to remember this… When you walk into a room, know that YOU are special, know you mean something to this world, your feelings matter, your story matters and I believe in YOU!