What Voice Do You Listen To?
We all have the not enough voice. The “I’m not ______ (fill in the blank) enough voice. Smart, pretty, thin, fit, organized, rich, outspoken… the list goes on and on. We all have “the” voice and the key is learning how to decipher “that” voice versus what the voice of your true, loving self is.
I don’t think we ever get rid of that voice. I do think with awareness and connection to your true self, your true voice is the key. So that can be the driving force in your life, that the not enough voice can ride in the back seat of the car.
I heard on a podcast from Elizabeth Gilbert talked about Fear and I found it very interesting. And now take that analogy with the not enough voice. When we hear or think about Fear, we can tend to want to kill off fear or go to war against it. She says “Instead, I make all that space for it. I even have a welcoming speech for it prepared when I embark upon a new project or adventure.” She talks to fear from the perspective on taking a road trip.
And her road-trip rules are for life. She says to fear:
“You’re allowed to have a seat, and you’re allowed to have a voice. But you are not allowed to have a vote. You’re not allowed to touch the road maps, or suggest detours. You’re not allowed to fiddle with the temperature. Dude, you’re not even allowed to touch the radio. But above all else, you are absolutely forbidden to drive.”
After I heard that I was thinking how powerful that analogy could be, so I tested it out in my life. I knew I needed to strengthen my connection to my true self/voice which is why I got myself a coach. I remember Jill my coach say when you hear that fearful not enough voice just tell it back seat for you and put some headphones on ha ha. I got a kick out of that visual. And quite truthfully it helped.
For me, strengthening my connection to my true self and removing the layers, I can feel how much stronger my true voice is when situations arise and when the not enough voice tries to be the driver. Inevitability that not enough voice will try to be the driver every time. My true self says back seat for you.
That voice that runs regularly through your head is what is creating your reality. Your thoughts, lead to your feelings and your feelings lead you to take action.
Let’s talk a little more about the mind. Here are four things about the mind:
- Your mind does exactly what it thinks you want it to do. It always does what it thinks is in your best interest.
- Mind is hardwired to move towards pleasure and away from pain
- The way you feel about everything comes down to two things: First, the pictures you make in your head. Second, The words you say to yourself
- The mind loves what is familiar. It is programmed to keep what is familiar close.
To succeed you have to make what’s familiar unfamiliar. And what is unfamiliar familiar.
Your mind does what is really thinks you want it to do. Always acting in your interest. Your mind listens all the time to your language. It works out what you are doing and feeling by the words you use.
Who’s driving the car? What thoughts loop through your head? That’s the question. Maybe some road-trip rules need to be set in place. For me, getting myself a coach is what helped me see things from a different perspective and make the changes.